My first message on Erobella was terrible. Three paragraphs about myself, zero useful information about what I actually wanted, and—looking back—probably came across as borderline creepy. Zero response. The second attempt wasn't much better. By my fifth or sixth message to different companions I'd figured out the formula. Here it is.
Why Most First Messages Don't Get Replies
Before the template, you need to understand why messages fail. Companions on Erobella receive a lot of messages. Not all of them are genuine. Many are from time-wasters, fetishists who want to talk but never book, and people trying to negotiate or push boundaries from the first line.
So when your message lands, it's competing with a pile of noise. Companions have developed pattern recognition for spotting genuine clients vs. time-wasters very quickly. Your message needs to signal "genuine" in the first three lines.
Messages that fail tend to:
- Be vague ("hey, you available?")
- Open with explicit requests or graphic descriptions
- Ask about pricing as the first question (shows you haven't read the profile)
- Be excessively long life-stories
- Show no evidence of reading their actual profile
- Feel entitled or demanding in tone
- Use pet names or overfamiliar language to a stranger
The Formula That Works
A good first message on Erobella is short, specific, and warm. Here's the structure:
- Greeting + your name
- One sentence showing you read their profile
- Your booking request: date, time window, duration, incall or outcall
- One polite closing line
That's it. Four elements. No more than 5-7 sentences total. Here's what it looks like in practice.
Message Templates That Actually Work
Basic First-Time Message
"Hi [Name], my name is Tom. I came across your profile on Erobella and loved reading about your approach—the way you describe putting clients at ease really resonated with me. I'd love to book a 90-minute incall session on Thursday evening, ideally between 6-9pm. Please let me know if you're available and what you'd need from me. Looking forward to hopefully hearing from you."
If You're a Nervous First-Timer
"Hi [Name], I'm James. This would actually be my first time booking through Erobella so I'm a little nervous, but your profile made me feel comfortable—particularly the part about enjoying first-timers. I'm hoping to book for a couple of hours on Saturday afternoon. Could you let me know your availability and what the process looks like? Thanks very much."
For a Returning Regular (New Companion)
"Hi [Name], I'm Mark—I've used Erobella for a couple of years and your profile caught my attention. I'm particularly interested in the GFE style you mention—that's what I enjoy most. I'm flexible on dates, but I'm based in Manchester and would love to book something in the next couple of weeks, either incall with you or outcall to a hotel. Happy to share more details if you'd like to know a bit more about me first."
What Each Element Is Doing
Your Name
Anonymous "hey" messages signal low investment. Giving your first name immediately is personalising and signals you're a real person making a genuine enquiry.
Showing You Read the Profile
This is the most powerful differentiator. When you reference something specific from their bio—their interests, their service style, something they said about their approach—it proves you chose them specifically, not randomly. Companions can tell instantly whether you've actually read their profile or just messaged everyone on the page.
One sentence is enough. "I particularly liked what you wrote about…" or "Your mention of X really appealed to me."
Specific Booking Request
Include: date (or date range), rough time, duration, and incall or outcall. This is the information they need to respond usefully. Without it, they'd have to ask you a bunch of questions just to have a basic conversation—which many won't bother doing.
If you don't have a specific date, give a range: "I'm free any weekday evening next week" or "I'd like to book sometime in the next fortnight."
Polite Close
A simple "looking forward to hearing from you" or "thanks for your time" closes the message warmly without being gushing. It's the written equivalent of a genuine smile.
What to Avoid Completely
Opening With Explicit Content
Starting a first message with explicit requests or graphic descriptions is the fastest way to get blocked. You don't know this person. They don't know you. Start professionally and let the conversation naturally move toward specifics once there's an established rapport.
Asking About Pricing in the First Message
On Erobella, most companions list their rates on their profile. If it's not listed, asking in your first message gives the impression you're shopping for the cheapest option rather than genuinely interested in them. If rates aren't clear, ask in a second message once you've established basic contact.
Negotiating
Never. Not in the first message, not in any message. If their rates don't work for your budget, move on. Asking for discounts is insulting to their profession and guarantees no response (or a very firm one).
The Life Story
Some clients think providing extensive personal background helps. It doesn't. They want to know if you're genuine and what you want to book—not your divorce history, your job stress, or your childhood.
Excessive Compliments
One genuine compliment tied to something specific in their profile is powerful. "You're absolutely stunning and I've been looking at your profile for weeks" is uncomfortable and comes across as slightly unhinged.
Timing and Response Rates
Send messages between 10am and 8pm. Messages sent at 2am often get missed or mentally filed under "suspicious."
If you don't hear back within 48 hours, one polite follow-up is fine: "Just following up on my message from [day]—still interested if you're available." After that, move on.
On Erobella, well-written messages to verified companions get responses around 80% of the time in my experience. Poorly written messages get maybe 20-30%. The formula above gets you into the 80% category consistently.
After You Get a Reply
Once they respond positively, confirm the details: date, time, duration, location. If there's anything unclear about their profile (services, parking, access instructions), ask now. Keep it efficient—companions are busy and don't want to exchange twelve messages to nail down a booking that should take three.
Once confirmed, send a brief confirmation the day before. That's it. You're booked. Stop messaging and show up at the agreed time, prepared and on time.
The Mindset Behind Good Messages
The real secret is approaching Erobella companions with the same respect you'd give any professional service provider. You wouldn't message a solicitor with "hey, you free?" You wouldn't ask a personal trainer to discount their rates in the first conversation.
Treat it as a professional enquiry. Be clear, be respectful, be specific. That mindset produces messages that get replies, which produce bookings, which produce great experiences.
It really is that simple once you get out of your own head about it.